So! How are those New Year’s Resolutions coming along?
I thought so. The month is a little over half over, and they’re falling like bowling pins. Why is that?
Easy. Because they are totally unreasonable. You set the bar too high. You knew you weren’t going to clear it. I’m going to quit smoking, drinking and lose 50 pounds. No, you’re not. You didn’t last year and you won’t next year.
Or you didn’t set the bar high enough, and it became irrelevant. I’m going to try and be healthier. Some vague crap like that. Pepperoni pizza and a pint of Talenti, that’s pretty healthy, isn’t it?
And why shouldn’t it fail? Why would you believe you could make some huge life-altering adjustment just because of the lunar cycle and some random calendering decision made 2,000 years ago?
So, do this instead.
Think of one thing. One small thing that bothers you and fix it. No, not that. You’re thinking too big. Think smaller.
A squeaky hinge or a dripping faucet, that kind of thing. Something that bothers you just a little bit each time it happens. Fix that. Do it today. Do it as soon as you finish reading this article and heap great praise upon it.
You may think it’s a small thing, but it was big enough for you to think of it. And it’s probably bigger than you believe. Every time you hear it, or see it, or think about it, you get just a little jolt of irritation. You probably forget about it a few minutes later.
Or do you?
More likely, it sits there in the back of your mind, waiting to jump out at you the next time it happens. So, stop it. Stop letting that one little thing nag at you day after day. Fix it now. Change that one thing.
Then, take a deep breath. Bask in the satisfaction of a job well done. A very small job, done very well. Then, just get on with your day; get on with your life.
But, sometime next week, pick another thing. Maybe it’s just a tad bigger than that first thing, but it’s still something you can fix. So, take care of it.
And then, another thing. But maybe you only wait a couple of days to fix this one. Because it’s getting easier, and you are gaining more satisfaction and peace of mind with each one.
Eventually, pick one every day until they become too big to handle that quickly. But even then, as soon as you finish one, start looking for that next one.
After a while, you will begin to notice something. A change in your outlook. A difference in how you look at problems. Because now, they aren’t something to ignore or put on a shelf until next January. They are something to fix once and for all. Change it and forget about it. Move on to the next one.
It will become a pleasurable experience, something you look forward to. Hah! What can I fix today? Slowly, but surely you will tackle bigger and bigger problems. Because now, fixing problems is a habit you have developed.
And sooner or later, that really big thing, that annually failed New Year’s Resolution will pop up. But it won’t be in January. It will be today, whenever today is. You will look at that problem and know you can fix it. Because you fixed all the ones that came before it.
And you will change that thing on that day and forever.